I paid the rent for July! Yea, not a big deal you say? Think again! You see when I say “I paid the rent”, I mean “I” did, with my own money for the first time in like forever!
You see, 2 years ago, I had a “real” job. I made pretty good money (not what I was worth of course, none of us does these days, but good money just the same). In fact, I was the one that paid all of the bills. On the 15th of every month, I logged into my bank account and scheduled payment on each and every one of our bills from my paycheck. The money my husband made was for gas, groceries, day care, and the fun stuff!
But the past 2 years have been different. The economy took a nose-dive and our family was struggling. My husband was out of work and my job was in jeopardy. We took the plunge and moved to Texas where he was offered a union job with the local pipe fitters. We decided I should stay at home with the babies. They deserved it. I had always wanted that. And we had decided to “struggle”. Oh and struggle we have!
We only have one vehicle now. We live paycheck to paycheck. We don’t do the “fun stuff” anymore. But we pay the bills, we have a roof over our heads, and the kids have food! And I was happy with this, a little stressed sometimes, but happy! But I was bringing nothing to the table monetarily. Yes, I was cooking 3 meals a day, I was cleaning, I was nurturing, and I was loving, but that wasn’t allowing for the “fun stuff”. I was bringing no monetary value to my family!
My husband was OK with this. He appreciates everything I do. But I could hear and feel the stress and pressure that this was putting on him and this did not please me! I wanted to stay home with my babies. I love staying home with my babies. I missed so much with the first ones, I didn’t want to do that again. Jobs are scarce out there for someone with my experience (and eh-hem age) with no degree. Day care is expensive (holy $325 a week for 2 kids expensive). Must find something else!
I babysit. It’s money. It helps with the groceries. Heck, I’m already here with the babies, why not one or two more? But it won’t pay the rent for sure! Now what?
So about 7 months ago, an old friend from high school that I reconnected with on Facebook and a very successful blogger, approached me. She said I was “funny”. She said people “liked” me. She said I could “do” this! I dove in (but I was holding my nose). I started writing. People started listening. Then I would get discouraged. I was always ready to give up. I kept writing, but I figured going back to work and leaving my babies was the best thing financially for my family!
BUT Jules at A Little Bite Of Life wasn’t having that. Of course she wasn’t! This woman rocks. If you aren’t following her, click that link and do it now. Even if you don’t read another word of this post, it is well worth your time to follow her. I love this woman. She is my inspiration. My cheerleader. In a way, she saved my life. And she allowed me to stay at home with my babies!
She knows people. She hooked me up with people. And this past month, I made enough money to pay my rent (and some groceries, and we did some “fun stuff”). No it’s not the money that I was making before, but before, I was leaving my babies. Now I am not!
Yes, my life is good! My friends rock! Jules started me on this adventure, and many others encouraged me along the way, and it paid off. My friends rock (yes I know I already said that and I’m not stuttering…I just want you to get it)!
This little (long winded as always) post is my thank you to my friends! Thanks for encouraging me! Thanks for cheering me on! Thanks for being the type of people that I can only aspire to be some day! In case I haven’t said it lately, y’all ROCK!
Oh and hey, did I mention that “I” paid the rent this month?
Christy Gossett, managing editor of SoFabFood and creator of the healthy living blog, Insanity Is Not An Option, is a WAHM of 6 kids ranging in age from 27 to 8. She enjoys sharing her heart-healthy, low sodium recipes to help others with dietary restrictions enjoy a flavorful life while maintaining a healthy diet.
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