Have I mentioned I have 6 kids? Have I mentioned that the oldest is 22 and the youngest is 2? Bet I have (at least a million times). That being said, I obviously have rules! I have to! If not, it would be sheer chaos, all of the time. There would be no respect. There would be no order. Life would not be good!
Let’s set the record straight, I am NOT my kids’ best friend. I do not aspire to be! I want them to love me and respect me (most of them do) and I want them to like me (most of them do). I nurture them, I care for them, I feed them, I clean up after them, I care deeply for them, but I also set and enforce the rules. Again, record straight, I’m a sucker. I give in way too often, but there are certain rules that must be followed. I want them to be productive citizens. I want them to contribute to society. I want them to be successful.
Over the past week and a half (OMG seriously? Has it only been a week and a half? Holy crap…shoot me now!) my step kids have been visiting us from Georgia and I am reminded of the importance of keeping order, of enforcing the rules. They have none at home….NONE! It’s obvious and it’s obnoxious! Mind you, I raised them in my own home for 6 years (they were 18 months and 4 years old when I “got” them) but they have lived with the “mother” for the past 2 years. UGH!
The rules are simple:
1) Respect yourself, respect your surroundings, and respect others.
2) If you had to open it, close it (dammit). This is not only important, but extremely simple and applies to cabinets, refrigerators, toilets, shower curtains, etc.
3) If you take it out, put it back!
4) Do not bully (seriously if you’re 13 and picking on a 2-year-old, you have serious…serious…serious problems).
5) Be respectful of others’ schedules.
6) If you are younger than me and you’re going to eat or drink it, it’s not too much for me to ask you to carry the groceries in (as a side note, I shouldn’t have to ask).
7) Since you more than filled the trash can up, would it kill you to take the trash out? (and again, I really shouldn’t have to ask).
8) I vacuum, every day, and I won’t wait until you get up.
9) Sleeping 20 hours a day is NOT acceptable.
10) When I say NO, I mean NO. When I say STOP, I mean STOP. If you don’t, you will not be rewarded. And this mom & dad talk, don’t try to play that game!
Simple huh? You’d think so. Do I sound like a bitchhard assNazi mom strict disciplinarian? I’m seriously not! Ask the oldest two! They’ll tell you I’m a pushover fair. Ask the babies, they’ll tell you I’m easy peasy a good mommy! But these middle 2? OY! It’s a struggle! It has been since day one! It was easier before the bitch Mom got out of the half-way house and decided she was an awesome parent and that they didn’t need rules. It was better before they lived with her and realized that leaving sandwiches in the floor for 5 days could be acceptable behavior. It was better a week and a half ago.
I love these kids! They are mine. I raised them. But I raised them better than this. They were not lazy. They did not sleep all day. They understood the 10 important (and seriously simple) rules! But they’ve not only forgotten them, they’ve abandoned them. They are now lazy and dare I say, nasty! UGH! Frustrating.
Sorry babes, I won’t be your best friend. I won’t give in. I won’t fold. These are the rules and I’m sticking to them. Hopefully by the end of the visit (2 more weeks…OMG shoot me now) they’ll come back to their senses.
Wish me luck people! Rules are NOT meant to be broken! The rules are fair, correct?
Christy Gossett, managing editor of SoFabFood and creator of the healthy living blog, Insanity Is Not An Option, is a WAHM of 6 kids ranging in age from 27 to 8. She enjoys sharing her heart-healthy, low sodium recipes to help others with dietary restrictions enjoy a flavorful life while maintaining a healthy diet.
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