Yes, right now Bubby is my favorite! He will be for a while. The rest don’t get it. The oldest finally does! Fabulous! Of the 6, my favorites are now the youngest and the oldest. Why you ask? Because they need me the most! They have the most issues! They are the neediest! This is why the oldest finally “gets” it!
I love them all! All SIX of them! They all have issues. They all need me. But they all need me at different levels. That is what all of them don’t get! You see my “favorite” is a shifting experience. Right now, the youngest needs me most because he is learning, he is being picked on, he is in need of my devoted attention. The oldest? She is 22, she is on her “own”. She needs me the most because she is trying to embark on this mission called “life”. I can’t let either of them fail. I can’ let either of them down. They need me the most, they are currently my favorites!
The “others” get mad at me! They don’t remember the time when they were the “favorite”. All of them were at some point, and all of them will be at some point again. You see, the baby, whoever that is, will always be the favorite. They get picked on. They get teased. They don’t deserve it. Of course, I will protect the baby, doesn’t matter who the baby is, they will be protected! So Bubby is the “forever baby” and he may always be the favorite in some way (he is the baby after all) but they were the favorite too! They know it! They admit it! It’s all good!
My point here is that what comes around goes around! Bry is 22. Bubby is 2. They are my favorites (right now). The middle 4 don’t need me like these 2 do. The middle 4 don’t love me like these 2 do. This will shift. This will falter. This will change! We all have our favorites at different phases in their lives (don’t deny it, it’s true). But at some point in all of our/their lives, they are our favorites! We love them all the same! It’s all good! And as they get older, they “get” it! They “get” us! And they in turn will experience the same with their own children!
This is a fact of life! Don’t feel guilty. Like I said, it will shift. And in time, all of them will “get it”. Rock on with your current “favorite” and know that it will change in minutes!
Christy Gossett, managing editor of SoFabFood and creator of the healthy living blog, Insanity Is Not An Option, is a WAHM of 6 kids ranging in age from 26 to 7. She enjoys sharing her heart-healthy, low sodium recipes to help others with dietary restrictions enjoy a flavorful life while maintaining a healthy diet.
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