Today was mine and B’s 8th anniversary. Although we argued over if it was our 80th (my idea) or 88th (his), it has only been 8.
You see, it has been a long time indeed! We’ve been together FOREVER, and since the moment we met, we already had four kids combined (with custody I might add). So alone time? Not so much!
Back then, the kids were 11, 6, 4, and 18 months. Seriously didn’t allow for much alone time, but we stuck it out and ended up marrying in Ft. Lauderdale, on vacation, in booty shorts (me not him silly), and flip flops! And we formed a family! But this alone time thing alluded us!
We figured it out over the years. We both had jobs. We both made decent money. We took vacations. We took them WITH the kids, and ah…ha, without them. We had a network of friends in our previous life! We lived close to family in our previous life! We had money to vacation in our previous life! We found enough alone time in our previous life to make 2 tiny new little additions to our family! But we live in a new life now!
Now? We are poor-ish. Now we do not live close to family! Now we do not have a huge network of friends! Of course we don’t! We have a 4-year-old and a 2-year-old, and these babies are wild! It takes all I can muster to raise these two, and he works so many hours and goes to school. We have one car. We do not network. We do not get out much. We pay the bills, we go to the pool, we go to the beach. This is our life. Our life is good!
But our life does not allow for “Christy and B” time. Our life does not allow us to be adults who enjoy time together as adults. Our life is all about our little family. Again, it is a good life, but I miss our “alone” time. Mind you, not the making babies alone time because there will be NO more babies for us (although the practice is fabulous) but the gazing into each others eyes alone time. That’s what I miss!
So today was our anniversary. Dare we try going out to eat? Of course we dare! Of course we’ll splurge! It will be fun! Romantic dinner for four please!
We head to the restaurant, Salsa’s on the Seawall (my favorite Mexican treat) and we file in the booth. B and Bug on one side, me and Bubby on the other. Seriously? Come on guys! It’s our anniversary! So I say “Hey Bug, don’t you want to sit with Bubby tonight?” to which she surprisingly replies “Yes Mommy, it’s YOUR anniversary”.
WOW…we swapped seats! We really did it! No crying, no fussing, no complaining. They complied. The babies sat on one side and B and I sat on the other! Yes that’s right! B and I sat alone on the same bench, at the same booth, for the first time in like FOREVER. There was leg rubbing. There were “looks”! There was adult talk. There was a grab me where he shouldn’t (but I scolded him for that), but you get the picture.
My point? I always have a point, you just sometimes miss it in my ranting! Tonight, we passed a milestone. We had “moments”, we had “looks”, we got to sit together! Might not seem like much to some of you, but believe you-me, if you have six kids, these moments are few and far between!
B is actually looking forward to retirement. Not for the reason that most of you are, but for the reason that we will finally have some alone time! I enjoy my babies, all of them, but I do miss the days gazing into my hubby’s eyes! He has awesome eyes by the way!
I’m not looking forward to retirement. And the idea of my babies all being grown up and gone is not a happy thought for me! So for now, I’ll just take the little moments! Tonight was one of those moments! Tonight I got to spend a few precious moments ALONE with my husband on the bench. I live for those moments! God willing, they will be plenty, and they will last for a long time!
Christy Gossett, managing editor of SoFabFood and creator of the healthy living blog, Insanity Is Not An Option, is a WAHM of 6 kids ranging in age from 26 to 7. She enjoys sharing her heart-healthy, low sodium recipes to help others with dietary restrictions enjoy a flavorful life while maintaining a healthy diet.
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