A Mother’s Epiphany…It’s All About The Bond!

I’ve shared this photo before but it deserves revisiting because of an epiphany I had tonight. Every time I look at it, my heart melts. I gave birth to these 4 beautiful creatures and I love them each equally in very different ways. This photo is my phone’s wallpaper and my computer wallpaper. I’m drawn to it for so many reasons but until tonight, I never realized WHY it is my favorite photo ever!
As you know, my children are widespread in years by birth. Bry is 23, Paet is 18, Bug is 5, and Bubby is 3. There is not a lot of common ground as you might imagine. One’s in to bars, one’s in to boys, one’s in to Barbies, and one’s in to cars. Doesn’t make for good conversation…so you would think! My babies are all very unique but share a common bond and it’s not just their mom. They have a true bond, even with the distance. So on this occasion when we were all reunited for Paetyn’s graduation, I caught this moment. I knew this was a special moment and just the sight brought tears to my eyes…still does!
But tonight, I noticed what compelled me to look at this photo, over and over again, on a daily basis. It wasn’t just their beautiful faces (although look at them…they are beautiful, aren’t they?). It was the pairing that really gets me. The connections in this photo are all telling about us as a family. 
You see, Bry and Bubby are my clones. They look like me, they act like me, and they are both prone to daily nervous break downs like me. They have deep feelings that they share openly. The 3 of us are one. Paetyn and Bug on the other hand are so much like B, it’s ridiculous. Although B is not Paetyn’s birth father, he might as well be. The 3 of them have tempers that flare when the wind blows, they are irresponsible with their feelings, but they have a deep love for others that they do not know how to express.  Such is life and we are all different for a reason, and that reason is to make the world interesting. 
So tonight I noticed it. This photo that contains the 4 chambers of my heart also proves my point. Do you see it? As the 4 of them sat there together, bonding as siblings, sharing the same space, the connection is so obvious! The bar hop and the car lover shared a moment over a game on Bry’s phone and they were happy in that moment. At the same time, in the same space, the boy lover and the lover of all things Barbie shared an intimate stare. What was running through any of their minds at that moment is not important…the beauty and the bond is what matters! 
The 4 of them, sharing that space, bonding as I should have expected? That is all that matters and that is priceless! This photo will probably forever be my favorite. It captures a moment that will live in my heart forever.  I’m just elated that I captured it and that I can live it over and over again. 

About Christy

Christy Gossett, managing editor of SoFabFood and creator of the healthy living blog, Insanity Is Not An Option, is a WAHM of 6 kids ranging in age from 27 to 8. She enjoys sharing her heart-healthy, low sodium recipes to help others with dietary restrictions enjoy a flavorful life while maintaining a healthy diet.

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  1. How beautiful, Christy! You are such a good momma, and your kids are so lucky to have you for a Mom!

  2. I’m pretty certain I’m the lucky one!

  3. Man, this sounds like my 4 kids. 2 girls from my first husband, 2 boys from my 2nd. My first and last are exactly alike, sweet & gentle & sensitive kids. My middle two are very similar and are more like me. lol It’s amazing how genetics work! I love your photo and can understand completely why you do too!

  4. clgossett says:

    Sometimes I think that genetics only play a role in a person’s overall appearance. The rest comes from life lessons and experiences.

  5. clgossett says:

    I think I’m pretty much the lucky one Jules! They drive me batty but they have blessed my world with their uniqueness.

  6. Christine Mack says:

    I have two stepsons and two daughters. The age gap is huge as well. One is college bound, one just started driving (scary I know), one is going to kindergarten and one is going to preschool. The bond between them all is huge. I have this one picture where they are all sitting around the girls’ sandbox. It’s the sweetest picture I have. When I think of them together that’s what is in my mind. Thank you for sharing your heart. (((HUGS)))

  7. clgossett says:

    It’s a beautiful moment every time, isn’t it? I’m so happy you get to enjoy these special times too!