Letting Go and Coping with Adult Children

“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.” ~ Anne Frank
As parents, we make tough decisions as our children grow. It’s hard for me. I still have little ones at home. I want to cling. But I have children that are grown as well, and I’m learning to let go. 

I’ve taught them lessons. I haven’t always been a stellar example. But I’ve taught them right from wrong. They know. And now they’re grown. 

It’s time I let go. But that’s not always easy, so I do what I often do, and look to the sky for answers. The sky is a beautiful thing, just like my children. I trust in its beauty and I should trust in theirs. 

One is making all of the wrong decisions…always. One is about to embark on the ultimate test of adulthood. Are they ready? Neither probably is. None of us are when we hit that point I suppose. But I have to trust that I’ve instilled the right values in them. That I’ve taught them all I know. That it’s time to cut the cord. 

They can do this. The one that continues to mess up? I guess she’ll eventually get it now that she can’t rely on me to bail her out of every bad situation. I’m thinking if I stop, so will she. She knows better. 

The one that is embarking on the ultimate test of adulthood? She has a good head on her shoulders. She’s not ready for this. But she’ll tackle it like a soldier and I’m proud of her. Ready or not…here she comes. 

So, in my ramblings, what am I trying to get at? There comes a point where we need to step back, look to the sky, and hope for the best. They all grow up. We did. I struggled but I got through it. So can they. 

It’s hard for parents to let go. It’s necessary for parents to let go. Trust that you taught them well. Trust that they listened. Trust that they will succeed. Nothing else matters.

About Christy

Christy Gossett, managing editor of SoFabFood and creator of the healthy living blog, Insanity Is Not An Option, is a WAHM of 6 kids ranging in age from 27 to 8. She enjoys sharing her heart-healthy, low sodium recipes to help others with dietary restrictions enjoy a flavorful life while maintaining a healthy diet.

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  1. Mel pezza says:

    You taught them well and succeeded:) It is now their turn to venture into the adult world. I am sure they will do wonderful ! We all make mistakes but it is learning from it, which will be most important!!

  2. clgossett says:

    Here’s hoping you’re right!