Happy Calm Focused: A WAHM’s Best Friend

When life gets hectic, a mom has to turn to something for help. If you find yourself struggling with sleep, emotional control, or just an overall nervous feeling, I highly recommend trying Happy Calm Focused. The supply of Happy Calm Focused that I received to facilitate this post has been helping this WAHM stay more on task, stay in control of my emotions, and get a good night’s sleep.

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We all know life can get hectic and we all think, at least at times, that our lives are more overwhelming than others. I’m a full-time work from home mom of 6 kids from the ages of 25 down to 6, I’m married, and I manage my household. I cook daily, I drop the kids off at school, pick them up, deal with the chaos while taking calls from my grown children about whatever might be happening, good or bad, in their lives that day. I handle all of our finances and my husband works ridiculous hours and teaches school at night. All of this to say, I get overwhelmed, as we all do.

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About a month ago, I realized that I wasn’t handling the stress as well as I used to. Basically, I lost my junk and it wasn’t pretty. I was losing my focus for work, home, just about everything, and tasks weren’t getting completed. I was losing my temper more than I care to admit, I wasn’t sleeping, and I was a nervous wreck more times than not. Diet and exercise just weren’t doing the trick anymore. That’s when I heard about Happy Calm Focused and decided to give it a try. I mean, it couldn’t hurt, right?

I was hoping for instant gratification, a miracle “cure” for what ailed me. That was a lofty and ridiculous hope and I knew it, so I wasn’t disappointed when I didn’t feel any changes immediately. After about 2 weeks, although I hadn’t noticed any real changes, I realized that I was feeling particularly rested, we were getting to school on time every day without drama, my to do list wasn’t nearly as unchecked at the end of the day as it had been, and I wasn’t flipping out over trivial things. I realized that I had been actually sleeping through most of the night for the first time in a long time, and although I was still feeling overwhelmed, I seemed to be handling things more calmly and rationally.

From that point on, I noticed subtle changes and I felt my old self coming back slowly. After a full month of taking HCF, I’m a calmer, more level headed, more productive person again. I find myself laughing more than crying or yelling, and I just feel BETTER. I still flip out from time to time, but that’s my nature since I’ve always been high strung and a true perfectionist. I will say that I haven’t changed anything else about my lifestyle. I still eat my vegetarian diet and exercise daily, and all of my tasks are still the same as they were before, so the only thing I can attribute to this change in my mood, my overall well being, is HCF.

If you find yourself struggling with sleep, emotional control, or just an overall nervous feeling, I highly recommend trying HCF. To find out more about this natural miracle “drug”, like them on Facebook and follow them on Twitter. Here’s to a calmer, happier, more focused life for both you and I!

Dare to Dream of Cleaner, More Organized, Living Spaces!

Because my office has been a hot mess and storage room since our move, I cleaned up with Zep Commercial® as part of a sponsored post for Socialstars. #TryZep

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Our recent move was kind of a mess in general. We moved on August 15th, but by moved I mean, we brought over the big stuff like the beds, kitchen and bathroom supplies, our clothes, my laptop, the TV, living room furniture, and the dining room table. We had until October 6th to get everything out of the condo which sounds amazing right? Well, not so much. That just made us procrastinate and go back over to the condo here and there and grab some “stuff” each time. Somehow most of that “stuff” just landed in my office. It just kept piling up. I kept closing the door and ignoring it while I worked away at the dining room table. Not ideal. I’m incredibly OCD (seriously, I have the papers to prove that my tendencies are incredibly high) so I need order in my life. I need an office atmosphere to work effectively and I sure as heck didn’t even want to think about walking into that “office” that had become utter chaos and downright dirty. I needed something powerful to light a fire under my butt and get this place in order. Thankfully I found Zep Commercial® Quick Clean Disinfectant and All-Around Oxy Cleaner and Degreaser and as soon as I realized that @%!# will clean anything, I knew I was free to dream of a clean and organized office again.

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First order of business was to move all of the “stuff” into the middle of my office so I could actually move around in there. Then, I did what all good Disney fans and daydreamers would do in this situation. I carefully placed and affixed this applique on the wall, just inside the door, and I started to dream of my new cleaner, organized, dusted, and disinfected happy place. Then I got to work. I started digging through boxes to see where they belonged and moved the ones that needed to go into the attic out into the hallway (I don’t do attic stairs so B handled that part). Then I started sorting through the other boxes and de-hoarding my belongings. So much trash. So, so much trash! And then I started taking out my most favorite things (and realizing that my taste is somewhat that of a teenager when it comes to my happy place). I immediately cringed when I saw how dusty/dirty most of them were from being stored for far too long, I cleaned them all thoroughly with the Zep Commercial® All-Around Cleaner and Degreaser. Bonus, this stuff not only cleans just about anything and everything (awesome in the bathrooms and kitchen too), it smells amazing! And as a final prep for the big makeover, I disinfected the doors, door knobs, baseboards, furnishing, and every other non-porous surface with the Quick Clean Disinfectant because we’ve already had colds, flu, and stomach bugs in our house this year and this is the room I’ve neglected the most. And then the real fun began.

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I was able to turn that hot mess of a cluttered, dusty, dirty, more than likely germy room into something that was beginning to resemble an office. A happy (and clean) place where I could work productively while singing a happy little working song. And I’d be remiss if I didn’t point out, once again, that my office decor is probably not age appropriate, but it sure makes me smile. Because who doesn’t want a monkey with a crown sitting over them while they work?

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And this monstrosity of a corner filled with books, laundry, boxes, an Elsa doll I still haven’t sent (I’m sorry Summer, I’ll send it now that I found it), a bike flag, cords, and so much more? This was probably the biggest challenge. But fueled with Zep power, I tackled this too.

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A $30 bookshelf did wonders and now we have a reading room as well. Plus I have additional space to put more of my important stuff. You know, like my Marilyn Barbie and such. Yes, that stuff. But there was more work to be done and I was on a roll!

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I know what you’re thinking now that you’ve seen there’s a closet in the room. You think that I shoved all of this stuff in there and jammed the door closed, right? OK, I was tempted but my OCD said “no, no, no”, and besides it wouldn’t have all fit even if I tried.

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I organized all of my crafting supplies (yes, I have those) in a tote, and I left all of the “stuff” I use regularly in there as well as some pictures and plaques I still need to hang. Yes, there’s still work to be done in the room, but I’m really happy with how well it’s turning out.

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Ready to tackle a HUGE cleaning project like me, or do you just need some new cleaning products that do an amazing job at a reasonable price (and smell pretty awesome too)? We’ve got a Zep for that! Zep Commercial® offers a complete line of cleaning and drain care products that deliver professional results. Whether you’re a cleaning professional or just want to get the job done right while saving time and money, you’ll be able to clean with confidence and have pride in the results like me.

Like my sparkly results? Read more about Zep Commercial® on their website. You’ll also want to like them on Facebook and follow along on Twitter to find out about all of their amazing cleaning products. Seriously, cleaning has never been so simple thanks to Zep! Now if you’ll excuse me, I think there are a few bathrooms in need of cleaning calling my name. Happy cleaning!

I Feel Like I’m Failing My Children…

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I’ve been parenting for 25 years now. Not just parenting like most. I’ve had littles in my house for the entire 25 years. I should be a pro. I should have school issues down. I should be serving my babies well. But I’m not. I feel like I’m failing my kids. Today was the day I almost had a meltdown, a failure as a parent, because this school year has been full of trials and tribulations that I have never experienced in all of my years of parenting. Are the babies feeling the pressure too?

I try to shield them from the bad stuff, but this year has been a struggle. Let me just say that in all of my years as a parent, I guess I’ve been lucky. I’ve really liked most of the kids’ teachers, the schools, the experiences. We’ve had a few bumps along the way, but that’s normal and I handled them with grace and dignity and the schools, the teachers, always worked to improve and fix anything that might have gone wrong. That’s to be expected. That’s how it should be.

But this year has been different. Y’all, this year has been BAD. From speech therapy issues, to a very non-nurturing Kindergarten teacher that literally expected my son, at the age of 5, to enter the “outside world” for the first time ever as a high school student full of responsibility, to a crossing guard that practices unsafe habits, to a principal that doesn’t give a damn about any of the above.

Today it all kind of came to a head and I feel like I’m failing my kids.

Let me explain our year in a nutshell. Bubby has a speech delay. He’s no dummy…quite the contrary. He’s quite brilliant. But his speech isn’t clear and he can’t pronounce sounds, mostly blends, well. I tried to get him into pre-K, but they denied him because we are above the income level and don’t fit the other criteria for free education at the pre Kindergarten level. So he stayed home and I worked with him. Come to find out, that was a violation of the IDEA Act by the school. They fail, but I still feel like I failed him because I didn’t know.

He has a bully (why are some kids such assholes?). Awesome. He has trouble saying the Z sound so his name comes out sounding more like Daiquiri than Zachary. His bully pointed out, in front of all of the kids on the playground, that he was named after a drink. Not sure if I should be more concerned that the kid knew what a Daiquiri was (sounds like some issues at home to me) or the fact that my kid is being bullied and laughed at while no teacher, no adult, did anything to stop it. Anyway, the teacher won’t help, the principal won’t help, so I got in contact with the head of the speech therapy program for the district. She wasn’t amused and the wheels were speedily set in motion. The counselor (very nice) and the diagnostician (very nice) are involved and we’re well on our way to FINALLY getting him in the therapy program. YAY for that! I’ve been maintaining my cool although I did point out to all of them that the IDEA violation was nothing to joke about. I’ve hid this all from my kids.

I talked to the principal about this. She told me there was no violation. There was no problem. The SCHOOL was handling this as they should. The SCHOOL had this under control. But no, they didn’t. I had it under control. I did this. She took credit and gave herself accolades. Strike one.

I talked to the principal about his teacher. I said I was sure she was effective and a great teacher, but she wasn’t the best fit for my son, for our family. Could we just switch classes? No. She’s the team leader for Kindergarten. She’s the best they have. We just need to adjust. End of conversation. I conceded, tried to deal with it, and failed my son.

Then, of all things, an issue came up with one of the crossing guards in the morning. She doesn’t protect those children. As they are walking across the road, still in the road, she starts flagging the cars to move through. NO! There are babies in the road. Just no. So I stop my car, leave it running every morning, and quickly walk my children across the school parking lot myself, then scurry back to my car and pull off. My children deserve to be safe. All children deserve to be safe.

Apparently, I’m breaking the “rules” by doing that. Apparently, I’m the problem. Well, me and the other 100 or so parents that do this exact same thing every morning for the very same reason (hey school people, we talk to each other too). But the difference is, I had the nerve…THE NERVE…to say something about it and tell her, when asked, that she should really be a little safer in her practices.

Back up…NO…I’m not one of THOSE people. I don’t complain about everything. I make it a rule to not complain at restaurants or my children’s schools. The first could spit in my food, the second could hurt my babies. I’m the snack mom. I send in too many school supplies. I’m asked to be PTO president every year (NO thank you). This is the first time…EVER. It’s that bad!

Yesterday, the principal called me (man, she yells a lot). She wanted to know what MY problem was. Well, if she had answered her messages or seen me on the 8 occasions that I waited in the office to talk to her about this, she would have already known. But anyway, I told her. I explained the unsafe practices. I explained (again) the speech therapy issues, I explained that we were unhappy with one of the teachers. She told me that I’m breaking the rules. She yelled that I’m breaking the rules. I can’t call the admin office, I can’t walk my kids into the school, I can’t…be a parent I guess?

I’m done! DONE! This morning, when I went to drop off the kids (the kids that I’ve requested be moved to another school repeatedly to this principal), I parked in a line behind 10 cars. Not the drop off line, in the side parking lot. She came rushing (seriously she rushed me with a gym teacher as a pseudo body guard?), to tell me I can’t park there. The others were parked there. There are no signs. I asked why that was OK. She said…dudes and I quote…”because” and “you’re not the boss here”. The heck?

I guess I got her in trouble with the speech thing initially. That’s all I can figure. But she’s gunning for me and I finally just broke down. BROKE DOWN. She rushed me and did all of that in front of my babies. In front of the other parents. Like the bully that rushed Bubby on the playground.

Done.

I talked to the Superintendent of Curriculum’s office the last 2 days. They’re looking into transferring the babies to another school this year, even though that’s not the norm. I don’t know how much more I can take. The babies are starting to feel the pressure and that kills me. This all started because of some failure on the part of the school. I’ve been trying to keep my cool, I’ve been keeping my cool. They’ve gone too far. We all make mistakes. I know this. But to play the blame game and make children uncomfortable when they screw up? Not cool at all.

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Tonight, I decided to just let the stress melt away. I took some time off. Time to play with and enjoy my babies. No one will get the best of us. EVER. NO ONE. Schools have a lot of power over our future. Some teachers, some schools, are absolutely amazing. All teachers, all schools, should use their powers for good. Teach our children well, nurture them, help those of us that want the best for our children to make this world a better place.

After spending a little extra special time with these babies tonight, I realized that I’m not failing them. The system is. I’m a lover not a fighter, but they’ve failed big time and I’m ready to make a change. I’m ready to work this system like my bitch. Don’t mess with my babies. Don’t EVER mess with my babies!