Everyone has marital problems from time to time. It’s how we deal with them that’s key. A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.
Life has its struggles. We all know this, and yet, somehow it’s all worth it. Marriage is no exception to this rule. Marriage is hard work, y’all. But it’s totally worth it because that bond has so many perks. That bond is the true meaning of life. THAT BOND is what makes or breaks a successful marriage and family, and when that bond is challenged, it’s time to fix things.
B and I are certainly no exception to the “challenged bond” rule. We’ve had our ups and downs. We all have. Those couples that tell you that their life is perfect? They’re either lying to you or they’re lying to themselves. I’ve said that many times, but it bears repeating. No one’s marriage is perfect. We’re all human. We’ll disagree. We’ll fight. We’ll have a propensity to give up. Just quit. Human.
But what do you do when you think the prize at the game table is totally worth the risk? You try, and try again. It’s the same with marriage. If you want a successful marriage, you need to suck up the disagreements and find a way to fall in love all over again, with the same person, many times. It will take a forever of trying to make a forever marriage. No one, neither one of you, can ever stop falling in love, over and over again.
Is it always easy? NO.
Is it always simple to find that common ground that brought you together in the first place? NO.
Is it always worth the effort? YES!
You fell in love for a reason. You grew apart for a reason. Neither destination is really that far apart. You really had to try to get to both places. Nothing in easy in life. Nothing.
When you fell in love, you were on your best behavior. Before you felt yourselves falling apart, you were probably on your worst. It happens. BUT, your best behavior is who you really are, so bring out your best behavior again and fall in love, with the same person over and over again.
Stop letting the stress from work make you a Negative Nelson. Stop letting the stress of parenting make you a Bitter Betty. Stop focusing on finances. Stop keeping up with the Jones. Just stop fretting and start loving again. That’s all it takes. Remember who YOU are. Remember who your spouse was. Bring those “kids” back and just fall in love all over again. Life can be tough, but you’re tougher than that and those things really don’t matter. Your happiness, MY happiness, and the love you created is what really matters.
Find it again!
Remember what he or she loves best. Buy them sparkly things. SHOW them you care and that you never want to live another day without them in your life. Love them, like you did back then, again and again…and again.
If you’re struggling, again we all do, learn to love again. Fall in love again. You loved them in the beginning for a reason. Your heart says you love them now. Don’t fail your heart because your brain stresses everything!
Fall in love all over again, always with the same person! That’s the key to a successful marriage. I’m working on mine. Are you?