Friday, July 15, 2011

Yes Bubby, You Are My Favorite (for now)...Thank God Bry Finally Gets IT...The Rest Will Later!

Yes, right now Bubby is my favorite!  He will be for a while.  The rest don't get it.  The oldest finally does!  Fabulous!  Of the 6, my favorites are now the youngest and the oldest.  Why you ask?  Because they need me the most!  They have the most issues!  They are the neediest!  This is why the oldest finally "gets" it!

I love them all!  All SIX of them!  They all have issues.  They all need me.  But they all need me at different levels.  That is what all of them don't get!  You see my "favorite" is a shifting experience.  Right now, the youngest needs me most because he is learning, he is being picked on, he is in need of my devoted attention.  The oldest?  She is 22, she is on her "own".  She needs me the most because she is trying to embark on this mission called "life".  I can't let either of them fail.  I can' let either of them down.  They need me the most, they are currently my favorites!
The "others" get mad at me!  They don't remember the time when they were the "favorite".  All of them were at some point, and all of them will be at some point again.  You see, the baby, whoever that is, will always be the favorite.  They get picked on.  They get teased.  They don't deserve it.  Of course, I will protect the baby, doesn't matter who the baby is, they will be protected!  So Bubby is the "forever baby" and he may always be the favorite in some way (he is the baby after all) but they were the favorite too!  They know it!  They admit it!  It's all good!

My point here is that what comes around goes around!  Bry is 22.  Bubby is 2. They are my favorites (right now).  The middle 4 don't need me like these 2 do.  The middle 4 don't love me like these 2 do.  This will shift.  This will falter.  This will change!  We all have our favorites at different phases in their lives (don't deny it, it's true).  But at some point in all of our/their lives, they are our favorites!  We love them all the same!  It's all good!  And as they get older, they "get" it!  They "get" us!  And they in turn will experience the same with their own children! 

This is a fact of life!  Don't feel guilty.  Like I said, it will shift.  And in time, all of them will "get it".  Rock on with your current "favorite" and know that it will change in minutes! 

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Stealers & Liars & Plagiarists...Oh My!

Yup, that's right folks, I've been plagiarized!  What you say?  Yea, me too!  Seriously, I'm a small town gal.  I'm a little bitty blogger!  But somebody stole my crap!  I am not tolerant of this and have been having a hard time figuring out how to deal with it!  Should I call the bitch fellow blogger out by name?  Should I confront the plagiarist fellow member of several of my social networking communities?  Should I report the thief woman who stole my stuff?  Nope, I shall do what I do best (and apparently she agrees since she stole my stuff), I shall write about it!

You see, I have "catch" phrases and personal oddities, we all do!  I sparkle on!  I say please and thank you (in a very obnoxious way),  I have a goat as one of the 21 "people" in my head!  I skip!  I twirl!  I call the birds on the seawall in my best little princess voice!  Guess what?  Apparently she and I are one and the same, because all of a sudden (*poof* after years of blogging and 2000 followers) holy coincidence, she all of a sudden has all of the same catch phrases, quirks, and oddities that I do!  Wow, I was officially impressed when I first saw her suddenly using all of this stuff.  I thought we were sisters from another mother!  I wanted to reach out to her!  How fabulous was this?

OK, seriously, yes I thought it was a little suspicious!  I watched as this conniving calculated bitch fellow, very large blogger started talking about skipping and twirling.  I heard her talk about her goat (are you flippin serious?), then I watched as she ended every comment with "sparkle on" and I thought WTH?  You've gone too far.  Still I kept quiet (because that's what I do best).  I figured people would eventually catch on.  They didn't!

You see I blog for myself, I blog for my family, I blog for my friends, but I also blog because measly as it might be, it's my living.  I do paid posts, shops, reviews, and advertisements.  My reputation, and my wit, are all I can rely on.  And this week, I actually lost opportunities to myself!  Again, she is BIG, and I am little!  We both applied for the same opportunities.  She was chosen (she even cited her plagiarized post in her application...ut oh Karma is a bitch).  Wise choice Mr. Social Network Guy!  We ARE both funny...the same funny as a matter of fact!  And she is BIG and I am little!  Yes, I would have picked her too!  But understand, we are both not all that funny after all!  Only one of us is writing original material.  Only one of us is truly making people laugh!  Only one of us has integrity.  One of us is little because we are honestly working our way up.  One of us is big because we are stealing.  Can you guess which is which?

So my suspicions were confirmed today when I was contacted by a fellow (and very honest) blogger who sent me a message which said "Did you see this?" followed by a link!  I clicked on the link, I'd had it.  I was right all along!  This ruthless bitch blogger actually crossed the proverbial line!  War!  I did a post about 2 weeks ago.  You can view it here: My Journey to Happily Ever After .  I liked this post.  I was proud of this post.  It told the story of my recent journey.  Well apparently, she went back to a dud post of her own from about a month and a half ago that didn't get much traffic and no comments and "revised" it!  By revised it, I mean, she took my post, called it "My Journey to Skipping" (wow that was bold) and copied my sentiments almost word for word.  If you are a blogger you understand how this works.  If you aren't, let me explain.  You can go back and "revise" a post, not delete it, just change it, and it retains its date.  So to the naked eye, it looks like she posted my post a month before I did.  Yes, that's right, it looks like I plagiarized her!  Fabulous huh?

I didn't.  Those of you that know me know that not only wouldn't I, but that I didn't!  Those that know her are probably wondering where she suddenly got her sense of wit from!   I've read her previous posts (I was a follower and admirer in my previous life), and guess what?  NOT funny!  I assume she got her 2000 followers in much the same way.  Some people are just not nice!  She probably plays the "follow for follow" game.  Again, if you're a blogger, you know the type.  She says "I'll follow you if you follow me", meaning, follow me, end of story!  It's sad!

Blogging is a business!  It's a fun business!  It can be stressful!  I get to do what I love while still staying at home with my babies which again is what I love!  But unfortunately, as with any business, there are duds!  Today I met my dud!  I don't know how to deal with this!  My husband wants me to find the bitch and beat her silly call her out by name!   Some of my bloggy friends say to let it go.  Some say to report her to my copyright people!  I'm torn between all three of these!  

I have a problem with dishonesty.  I don't understand it.  I am original.  Most say I'm witty.  This bitch lady apparently agrees with the witty part!  I like me!  I want to remain me!  I want to maintain my integrity!  I just don't get this!  And now I've lost work, money for groceries, literally candy for the babies!  

Anyone else ever experience this?  If so, what did YOU do?  I'm not skipping tonight!  I would love some direction, guidance, love, anything you can spare!  Please and thank you!  And as always, sparkle on!


Monday, July 11, 2011

Yes Kids, There Are Rules In This House...Deal With It!

Have I mentioned I have 6 kids?  Have I mentioned that the oldest is 22 and the youngest is 2?  Bet I have (at least a million times).  That being said, I obviously have rules!  I have to!  If not, it would be sheer chaos, all of the time.  There would be no respect.  There would be no order.  Life would not be good!

Let's set the record straight, I am NOT my kids' best friend.  I do not aspire to be!  I want them to love me and respect me (most of them do) and I want them to like me (most of them do).  I nurture them, I care for them, I feed them, I clean up after them, I care deeply for them, but I also set and enforce the rules.  Again, record straight, I'm a sucker.  I give in way too often, but there are certain rules that must be followed.  I want them to be productive citizens.  I want them to contribute to society.  I want them to be successful.  

Over the past week and a half (OMG seriously?  Has it only been a week and a half?  Holy crap...shoot me now!) my step kids have been visiting us from Georgia and I am reminded of the importance of keeping order, of enforcing the rules.  They have none at home....NONE!  It's obvious and it's obnoxious!  Mind you, I raised them in my own home for 6 years (they were 18 months and 4 years old when I "got" them) but they have lived with the "mother" for the past 2 years.  UGH!

The rules are simple:
1)  Respect yourself, respect your surroundings, and respect others.
2)  If you had to open it, close it (dammit).  This is not only important, but extremely simple and applies to cabinets, refrigerators, toilets, shower curtains, etc. 
3)  If you take it out, put it back!
4) Do not bully (seriously if you're 13 and picking on a 2-year-old, you have serious...serious...serious problems).
5)  Be respectful of others' schedules.
6)  If you are younger than me and you're going to eat or drink it, it's not too much for me to ask you to carry the groceries in (as a side note, I shouldn't have to ask).
7)  Since you more than filled the trash can up, would it kill you to take the trash out? (and again, I really shouldn't have to ask).
8)  I vacuum, every day, and I won't wait until you get up.
9)  Sleeping 20 hours a day is NOT acceptable.
10) When I say NO, I mean NO.  When I say STOP, I mean STOP.  If you don't, you will not be rewarded.  And this mom & dad talk, don't try to play that game!

Simple huh?  You'd think so.  Do I sound like a bitch hard ass Nazi mom strict disciplinarian?  I'm seriously not!  Ask the oldest two!  They'll tell you I'm a pushover fair.  Ask the babies, they'll tell you I'm easy peasy a good mommy!  But these middle 2?  OY!  It's a struggle!  It has been since day one!  It was easier before the bitch Mom got out of the half-way house and decided she was an awesome parent and that they didn't need rules.  It was better before they lived with her and realized that leaving sandwiches in the floor for 5 days could be acceptable behavior.  It was better a week and a half ago.  

I love these kids!  They are mine.  I raised them.  But I raised them better than this.  They were not lazy.  They did not sleep all day.  They understood the 10 important (and seriously simple) rules!  But they've not only forgotten them, they've abandoned them.  They are now lazy and dare I say, nasty!  UGH!  Frustrating.  

Sorry babes, I won't be your best friend.  I won't give in.  I won't fold.  These are the rules and I'm sticking to them.  Hopefully by the end of the visit (2 more weeks...OMG shoot me now) they'll come back to their senses.  
Wish me luck people!  Rules are NOT meant to be broken!  The rules are fair, correct?