Monday, January 14, 2013

Stepford Wives...Can You Ever Really Recover?

Until a couple of days ago, this was me. It's pitiful, but I had turned in to one of those stepford wives. I had 5.5 children (don't ask me which one is only a half a child, I'd have to answer and that's just embarrassing).

We lived in the Woods for far too long (almost a year) and completely lost our way. The babies stopped behaving, the child that can not be at home because she refuses to accept anything as a home, had a huge affect on us, and my marriage suffered as a result.

I closed down. I became a robot that cooked meals, did laundry, cleaned, and ignored my surroundings while I worked ridiculous hours to hide in my shell. There I said it, I got cold. Robotic if you will. I fell in to a deep depression that I hid from the outside world.

Time to move it right along. And so we did. I told you I was regaining my life and moving forward. I meant that. But set backs are inevitable. I still have the drama queen that intentionally left all of my kitchen supplies, including my coffee maker that I explicidly asked her to pick up, on the counter at our old "home".

I still have to face that her father won't realize that this girl, this angelic LOOKING child, is constantly trying to break up our family as she announced she would the week she moved in.  No, I'm serious. She said that. "I want my daddy all to myself and you and those kids gone".

So will everything ever be OK no matter where we live? Probably not but let's hope "Daddy" wakes up and sees the real issues at hand. Let's hope The Woods are behind us with all of their fakeness. Let's hope my babies have the life they deserve.

Nothing else matters. I just want my life back. Bump the stepford shit. Hopefully my step daughter will come to understand that the stepford world belongs elsewhere because it has destroyed my family enough. She's making progress, very slowly but surely.

We're making progress and moving in the right direction. We've smiled a lot more since moving back to the island. I wouldn't say our world is perfect again, but it sure is better, and no one's world is ever truly perfect anyway. One thing is certain, I am never going back in to that shell again.


  1. I cannot imagine that the Christy I "met" is in a shell, but this just makes me excited to see even more of the sparkle!

  2. I honestly wish I could hug you right now Christy. So many things I'd love to share with you. I'm SO thankful you are back where your family belongs. I truly hope your step daughter will have a change of heart and that her dad will see the true nature of his daughter. At some point he will have to be the one to say "enough" and put her in her place. I'm praying something fierce that all the beautiful life has to offer you comes spilling over your family as you settle back in!

  3. You'll get there day by day, smile by smile.

  4. Nail on the head my friend. He needs to own this. I love that girl and I've raised her since she was a year and a half old....but it's getting old. He needs to act on the enough is enough theory. Our life will be whole matter what!

  5. Thanks Kristin. I hope so!

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  7. Love to you, girl. I don't know what you're going through with your step daughter, but I know ALL about depression. I've been there and am still recovering. It caused me to be paralyzed to my own life and the things that needed to happen for me to be an effective wife, mother, and person.

  8. If you ever need to chat, please feel free. I'm here for you like you've been here for me. xo

  9. Summer - thank you for sharing that with me and offering an ear. It's somehow comforting to know that someone understands. You are one of the people that I would have guessed would never have felt these emotions since you are so funny and on your game all of the time (at least on the outside). Thanks again!

  10. I was the jerk of a stepchild when my mom remarried and eventually grew out of it. I remember begging my mom to get a divorce because I hated him so much. I have now grown up and love him to pieces. I have a feeling you guys will get there too!

  11. My oldest was AWFUL to B when we first got married and now he is the only "Daddy" she knows. I'm hopeful.


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