Anniversaries, Love, and Realizations…I’m Where I’m Supposed to Be.

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Do you remember the minute you fell in love? The minute you knew HE was the one? I do. It was one day in 2003. I’d been in “love” before. But it wasn’t real love. It didn’t have staying power. It was fleeting and those relationships didn’t last. Not even the one that produced 2 beautiful children. It wasn’t “real”.

I met B in 2002 and it was meant to be a fling. He was 11 years my junior. He had his kids, I had mine. We just wanted a companion that didn’t want anything lasting. Just a break from reality. I remember the first time he told me he loved me. He wasn’t supposed to tell me that. I felt it then, but I didn’t admit it. That’s not what we were about.

But I remember the day I admitted it freely and willingly like it was yesterday. Something in the way the sun shone on him, something in the way his eyes twinkled, something in the way he made me rethink love. It was that day that I felt a forever love, a love that would withstand the troubles and trials in life, the love that would withstand the test of time. No matter what.

That “no matter what” has been truly tested over the past 12 years. He’s tested it way more than I have. But the day I decided to truly “love” him, I decided that this time, I’d learn true love, understanding, and the hardest part of all, forgiveness. Because this man? He was worth it.

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And he is. Despite our troubles, this man is the man I want (NEED) to spend the rest of my life with. We just recently celebrated 11 years of marriage, but I see it more as celebrating 11 years of staying power. Marriage, relationships, are rough. Anyone that says their marriage is perfect is either lying to you, or lying to themselves. There are always problems when you decide to spend the rest of your life with just one person. Always. But when you decide to love, accept, and occasionally forgive? That’s when you can find true happiness. It’s work!

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Sometimes, when you find the “one”, there’s occasional pain. But when you actually do find the “ONE”, there’s always so much more pleasure than pain so it’s totally worth it. It’s worth the “work” involved in making a real relationship, in fostering that forever love. Nothing is easy in life. NOTHING. If you have staying power, if you find the ONE, stick it out. Work on it. Continue to work on it each and every day. Don’t ever forget why you fell in love. Don’t ever forget the moment that brought you to this point. Don’t ever forget to tell the one you love how much you love and appreciate them. Just keep working.

Happiness is possible and I’ve found happiness through the occasional trials and tribulations. I’ve also found that all of this “work” is totally worthwhile. I love being in love and I love the life I’m living. It’s not all work so I’m happy to put in the time to enjoy the roses on any given Tuesday, the unspoken “looks”, and the memories we’re making while we constantly “work” on us.

It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it. And quite honestly, “The older I get, the less time I want to spend with the part of the human race that didn’t marry me.”.

3 Years What? Happy Blogiversary to Me!

That’s right y’all. I’ve hung on to this little piece of .com real estate for 3 years now. I missed it by a day (or 2) but I’m 3 years old now. Don’t split hairs and point out the obvious. I’m talking about this blog, not about me. 

It’s an amazing thing. They (whoever “they” are) say that the majority of blogs don’t withstand the first year. I’ve made it to THREE. Happy (we all knew I was stubborn) blogiversary to ME. My first post didn’t contain a single photo. It didn’t seem important back then. I just wanted to talk, to myself, even if I was the only one that listened. But other people joined along (again, I’d like to thank all 10 of you) and I grew. I learned that photos were important. I learned that sharing healthy recipes meant people that I had no clue existed would pop in from time to time. I grew. 

I’m not huge (neither in stature nor page views) but I’ve grown. I like how I’ve organically grown and I love all of the other opportunities that this little dot on the internet map has afforded me. And I truly love the real life connections I’ve made since joining the blogging community. I’ve gotten really frustrated along the way and thought about throwing in the towel way more than once. This, along with my other gigs, is a lot of work. But I love what I do and I’m happy to be 3! 

I’ve decided, I’m in this for the long haul. I’m sure I’ll still get frustrated from time to time. I’m sure I’ll be hit with the sudden urge to throw this laptop off of the balcony at least once a week. And I’m sure I’ll sit here and scratch my head wondering why, oh-why, would anyone want to read anything I have to write on a daily basis. But that’s OK. Because, as with anything that you truly love, there are always frustrations in life. If you see more good than bad. If the scale is tipped in your favor. You just don’t give up, and I don’t plan on it any time soon. 

I’m proud of this little dot. I’m proud of myself and my staying power. This is the most fun and rewarding “job” I’ve ever had in my life. What are you most proud of in your professional career?

Still Looking for the Perfect Cheap Wireless Plan

I don’t like my current cell phone carrier as I’ve already told you, so as part of sponsored exercise through Collective Bias, I’m still researching the Walmart Family Mobile Plan to see what others have to say. The service in my area still isn’t really strong (PS In case I haven’t told you, we live on an island so that’s to be expected), but the price plan sure is, so I’m stalking following along with others to hear what they have to say about it with my fingers crossed that the service will pick up a bit in my area before I make the big switch for the family when our contracts are up.
The things that make me excited about this plan are: 1) There are no contracts, 2) They have a flat monthly rate of $40 for unlimited talk, text, and web, and 3) My family could save a TON of money each year with this service.
I noticed that my buddy Mallery over at the Horrible Housewife was trying out the service and I know that she doesn’t live as remotely as I do so I was curious as to what she had to say (plus she makes me giggle). Seems the service will help her save for her long overdue honeymoon this fall. Here’s what she had to say:

“Cheap Wireless Plans are like unicorns, a very rare and magical concept, something people dream about these days. And you bet the Schuplin household could stand to have some unicorns… err… cheap wireless plans in their life!  Our better late than never California honeymoon is happening this fall and that means it’s time to fill the piggy bank with all of the change we can scrounge up! For the record, we are going on our honeymoon around our third anniversary.”
She further details her experience by saying:

“Start working out your nimble fingers because text and picture messages are unlimited with Walmart Family Mobile! Now don’t worry a ton about your data usage because you get 1GB at 3G speeds and you can purchase a ‘boost’ if you need more data usage. Coming from a social media junkie who carries her phone in her sports bra if she doesn’t have pockets, 1GB of data is plenty for an everyday internet-a-holic.”

So I’m very hopeful that the service in my area will pick up really soon, they tell me it will. I’ll be honest, B and I haven’t even had a honeymoon yet and we’ve been married 10 years. If I could switch to this service and ditch my current carrier PLUS go on a honeymoon with my husband like Mallery, I’m totally doing it. You really need to check them out. People across the nation are singing their praises. Of course they are. $40 per month for unlimited wireless service? Yes, that does sound like unicorns now doesn’t it? 

Head on over to hear all that Mallery has to say in Are Cheap Wireless Plans Possible? and watch her video to find out more (and because you totally need a giggle). Leave her a comment because she really digs them and follow along with the rest of her antics. You’ll thank me later. 

If you already use this service, let me know what you think and how much money you’re saving. If you head to Walmart to check it out, let me know that too. I’d love to hear from you.