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Anniversaries, Love, and Realizations…I’m Where I’m Supposed to Be.

By Christy 2 Comments

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Do you remember the minute you fell in love? The minute you knew HE was the one? I do. It was one day in 2003. I’d been in “love” before. But it wasn’t real love. It didn’t have staying power. It was fleeting and those relationships didn’t last. Not even the one that produced 2 beautiful children. It wasn’t “real”.

I met B in 2002 and it was meant to be a fling. He was 11 years my junior. He had his kids, I had mine. We just wanted a companion that didn’t want anything lasting. Just a break from reality. I remember the first time he told me he loved me. He wasn’t supposed to tell me that. I felt it then, but I didn’t admit it. That’s not what we were about.

But I remember the day I admitted it freely and willingly like it was yesterday. Something in the way the sun shone on him, something in the way his eyes twinkled, something in the way he made me rethink love. It was that day that I felt a forever love, a love that would withstand the troubles and trials in life, the love that would withstand the test of time. No matter what.

That “no matter what” has been truly tested over the past 12 years. He’s tested it way more than I have. But the day I decided to truly “love” him, I decided that this time, I’d learn true love, understanding, and the hardest part of all, forgiveness. Because this man? He was worth it.

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And he is. Despite our troubles, this man is the man I want (NEED) to spend the rest of my life with. We just recently celebrated 11 years of marriage, but I see it more as celebrating 11 years of staying power. Marriage, relationships, are rough. Anyone that says their marriage is perfect is either lying to you, or lying to themselves. There are always problems when you decide to spend the rest of your life with just one person. Always. But when you decide to love, accept, and occasionally forgive? That’s when you can find true happiness. It’s work!

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Sometimes, when you find the “one”, there’s occasional pain. But when you actually do find the “ONE”, there’s always so much more pleasure than pain so it’s totally worth it. It’s worth the “work” involved in making a real relationship, in fostering that forever love. Nothing is easy in life. NOTHING. If you have staying power, if you find the ONE, stick it out. Work on it. Continue to work on it each and every day. Don’t ever forget why you fell in love. Don’t ever forget the moment that brought you to this point. Don’t ever forget to tell the one you love how much you love and appreciate them. Just keep working.

Happiness is possible and I’ve found happiness through the occasional trials and tribulations. I’ve also found that all of this “work” is totally worthwhile. I love being in love and I love the life I’m living. It’s not all work so I’m happy to put in the time to enjoy the roses on any given Tuesday, the unspoken “looks”, and the memories we’re making while we constantly “work” on us.

It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it. And quite honestly, “The older I get, the less time I want to spend with the part of the human race that didn’t marry me.”.

Filed Under: Anniversaries, Family, Life, marriage, My Happy Life Tagged With: accomplishments, family, marriage, marriage quotes

Tolerate my worst, celebrate my best, or take a hike!

By Christy 6 Comments

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“I’m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control, and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” ~Marilyn Monroe

I’ve always loved that quote because it holds so true in so many situations/relationships in life. I mean, we all have bad days. People can choose to love us, or hate us, during the rough times and the good. If they choose to hate us during those times for whatever reason, then we really don’t need them in our lives, right?

RIGHT!

Lately, I’ve been surrounding myself with only positive people. That’s not to say that I don’t have negative people in my life. I really think that can’t be avoided at some level. I mean there’s one on every corner, kind of like gas stations. People surface in your life, they’ll show their support or their “ugly”, and it’s our decision whether to allow those situations or relationships to stay in our lives, or not.

I choose to shed myself of the negativity. I choose to embrace my impatience, my insecurities, my mistakes, my strengths, and my successes for they are my own and they make me who I am.

My family, my true friends, and my co-workers…they choose to accept me at my worst, and embrace and raise me up at my best. This people, is a magical thing. Yes, I’m surrounding myself with positivity and it’s nothing but roses and happiness for me and my future.

Haters gonna hate. So to those of you that can’t handle me at my worst, or celebrate me at my best, you sure as hell don’t deserve me in either case. To those of you that support me no matter what? I am eternally grateful that you tolerate me during my bad times, and choose to celebrate the good ones with me.

Filed Under: accomplishments, friends, Life, marriage, My Happy Life Tagged With: inspiration, my happy life, Relief

I Crave the Rose, So I’ll Face the Thorns

By Christy Leave a Comment

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Yes. That quote speaks volumes to me about my life, and my fears. All my life, I’ve been afraid. Afraid to grasp the thorns for fear of pain or rejection.

But how could I ever expect to smell sweet success, the roses, either personally or professionally without the pain? I guess I was afraid to find out. Fear. That’s been the barrier for me.

I’m no longer afraid of the pain. It’s a fact of life. I can face the pain of the thorns knowing that I’ll smell the roses when I face my fears.

I’m grasping the thorns because I crave the rose.

Filed Under: accomplishments, Family, Life, marriage, My Happy Life, Wordless Weds. Tagged With: family, Relief, Wordless Wednesday

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