How many of us would change our life’s course if we could? If you could write a letter to 5-year-old you, what would you say? Here’s my Letter to 5-Year-Old Me. If I could change some things, I would.
Dear 5-Year-Old Christy,
Hi! I hope this letter finds you well. I hope you had fun on the playground today. I hope you didn’t let that little mean boy get to you today. You’re tiny for your age. So what? That won’t change by the way, so get used to it, and embrace it. He doesn’t matter. Mean people suck. You’ll learn that soon enough. Way too soon in fact. I’m sorry. I wish grown-up me were there to hold you right now. I’m not, but I’ve always been with you and I’m here with you now. If you’re reading this (you’re not), you’ll avoid the hot mess that is your life in your 40’s. It’s not all bad. In fact much of it is awesome, but things could be better. Hang on, baby, because I have some things I want you to learn at 5, and I want you to carry those lessons into your 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, and beyond. Ready?
- Laugh a lot, baby. Even when you feel like crying, laugh. It’ll make them wonder what you’re up to, and it’ll make you a happier person.
- Don’t trust too soon. Being cautious isn’t being paranoid. It’s being cautious and it could save you years of heartache.
- Always say no the first time if that’s what your heart tells you to do. If you’re worth it to them, no matter the situation, they’ll wait.
- Hand in hand with 3, always follow your heart unless your brain is so overpowering that you truly need to listen. If that happens, listen to your brain.
- Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve. It’s OK to show your emotions, but showing too much just brings out those bullies. They sense it, on the playground now, and the bullies don’t change.
- Be the change. When life or people around you suck, figure out how to change things to make the world a better place.
- Find your tribe. Align with people that get you. Make them make you accountable for all of the above. Make them talk you out of the stupid shit (sorry about that, you’ll have a potty mouth when you grow up, there are worse things).
- Don’t be a doormat. This one will be a huge challenge for you. It’s one thing to be a people pleaser, it’s another all together to be walked on.
- Be proud of the fact that you have a brain and know how to use it. It’s not aggression, baby, it’s assertion. Don’t you dare let them tell you otherwise.
- Life’s tough. Like, the struggle is real. If the bully on the playground is too much, walk away. If the job isn’t treating you right (not to be confused with you being lazy), leave. If people beat you down too much, just walk away, love. Walk away from the shit life is sure to deal. You and I will both be better off if you’re better than me and just walk away from the crap.
Your life will be amazeballs if you (unlike old you) follow this advice. AH-MAZING! Don’t hit your 40’s and wonder what the eff happened. Take charge. Beat those bullies. The ones on the playground and the ones in your future life. Let them lie to others and pretend you’re the bad guy. You know. Everyone knows in fact. Just do you, boo, and be strong. Do you, but step it up this time. Change the things that are wrong as they happen, act on your instincts, your heart, your brain. I’m in your corner. A lot of people are. Don’t forget it this time.